I found this on the net.
[it has been suggested that during crying the person experiences raised levels of physiological arousal*. When the arousal returns to previous levels, it is experienced as feeling better (Kraemer & Hastrup 1988). In other words, the person does not really feel better but only feels better by a sort of 'contrast effect' with their distress during crying. In this scenarios all the self report interviews could be nothing more than self delusion.]

*a state of heightened physiological activity

Whoa. I never knew that.

However, I believe, Grief, my dear brothers and sisters, is good.

Jesus wept.
He was a man of sorrows.

We have our weeping moments, don't we?
But why did we weep?
Just to feel better?

I believe it's more than that. I believe when you cry real hard, you find yourself really vulnerable. When anyone is really vulnerable, they will lay down the walls that they have surrounding them, surrounding their hearts.

Physically, they would want touch. A pat or a hug. Being physically for someone who's vulnerable is the greatest affirmation of saying, "I know it hurts, though i do not know how much, just let it out, let me cry with you." [1 Corinthians 12:26a And if one member suffers, all the parts share the suffering]


Emotionally, they would want your encouragement. They would want your comfort. They would want to know that they are cared for.You may experience times when the person shuts you off and say, "leave me alone!"

Hmm... it may hurt you, but know that they don't mean it. Never leave them alone. We often get caught in the dilemma of wanting to be there, yet wanting not to agitate them further, ending up, we do not know what to do. Affirm them with your presence. Times like this, they need anyone more than loneliness. Tell them that no matter what, you're not going to leave them alone because Jesus will never leave them alone. [Hebrews 13:5 for He has said, "I will never leave you nor forsake you."]

Spiritually, share the agony of Christ, share the hope Christ embraced. [Hebrews 12:2 looking to Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God. 3Consider him who endured from sinners such hostility against himself, so that you may not grow weary or fainthearted.] Jesus cried and endured the cross. Because of that, our eyes won't be wasted from our grief.

I had my crying days. It was always a release for me, or "contrast effect".
I've seen people cry. I cry in my hearts with them, but i always, always fail to express it.

Next time, i'm going to express it.
"I know it hurts, let me cry with you."